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Useful 3 Smartest Words
Useful
3 Smartest Words in the world are “I don’t know.”
While
there are lot and lot of people who use and express “I know” It’s almost an
insult for them to be wrong. It seems that getting them to see your point
of view is impossible. They just don’t listen.
Know
anyone like that? Sure you do .We all do
!!
My
question is, how do they get that way?
They
Know Everything….
Why
bother having an open mind at all?
The
beauty of knowing nothing leaves you opens to knowing everything. It’s
totally zen. Like the old “empty your cup so it can be filled” teaching.
Empty your cup
1.
Think like a baby. Imagine a chubby, babbling, drooling,
wide eyed, baby strolling down the street with his mother. He’s inhaling a
bottle of baby formula when a loud crash makes him crap in his
diaper. Both he and his mom look over to see a terrible car accident.
The
mom looks horrified while the baby poops out his last turd and sticks the
bottle back in his mouth.
You
may be wondering, where does this relate to this post but My point is that
babies don’t really care. Mentally they are clean slates, which is why
they learn so quickly. They don’t let preconceived notions cloud their
vision of the world.
They
observe, respond to situations with their instincts, and remain present in the
moment.
Babies
are totally neutral and don’t even know it – which makes them even MORE
neautral-like.
In
other words, babies kick ass and so should you?
2.
When someone’s talking, shut the
hell up! Both externally and internally
How
many times have you caught yourself thinking about what to say before the other
person is done speaking?
Answer:
Not often.
Why?
Because
you do it so naturally, it’s barely noticeable to you. Next time someone’s
gabbing away, shut the voice inside your head up and listen.
A
neat little trick to do this is to pay attention to your body. Notice tension
areas and purposefully relax them. It’s easy to do and you’ll surprisingly get
more from the conversation than you normally would.
You’ll
also notice something very interesting.
Instead
of waiting to add your two cents, you’ll ask more questions. That’s a
good sign. The questions will be genuine and you’ll ask them with perfect
timing.
It’ll
keep conversations flowing and will forge connections between you and your new
friends..
Go
ahead, give it a try next time someone’s talking to you.
3. Forget all notions of right and
wrong. Even if someone is wrong and you’re right, who cares? You have
nothing to prove so let them be wrong. Simply listen and don’t rain on their
parade.
On
the other hand, if you’re wrong or don’t know something – who cares?! Just
admit it and ask for help.
It’s
that simple.
It
feels great and you’ll relieve the pressure of having to be perfect from your
shoulders. Let the world know you need help sometimes. Allow yourself to make
mistakes and activate the learning process. It’ll be the beginning of a
smarter and happier you. You won’t regret it.
People
will actually go out of their way to help you when they know you’re brave
enough to say three little words. You’ll also make them feel great by allowing
them to teach you something. Plus you’ll gain valuable information from someone
more skilled than you – FOR FREE!
You
can also go back to your own world where you know it all. Go back to your
pretend life of Godly wisdom. Get back on your high horse and be miserable on
the inside while you have it all under control on the outside.
I
think it’s possible but it all starts with you.
So
start today by working these words into your vocab. And admire how awesome you
can be.
Give
it a try and let me know in the comments
if this works for you. I’m simply sharing something I hope will make your
life easier. Will it actually work?
Simple
answer: I don’t know.
Sometimes doing "nothing" is the best response.
One of the most valuable advises I ever heard from my father, was an old
wisdom:
"Don't ever respond to anything when you are angry, don"t ever make
promises, when you are happy and don't ever make any decisions when sad"
We've all had that 5am or 5pm "urgent" phone call. But we are human and
our energy is not limitless. Sometimes it can and should wait!
I got an email at 5 in the morning that made me Go Crazy with angry. It pressed every button. It accused and threatenedme with all the cc-ed Sr Management . It attempted to make me feel guilt. It attempted to make me feel fear....
I made up my mind to type a eassy reponse to same and then i just waved at thought I'll sleep :) I’m not so great that I can always stop. Sometimes I don't respond.
But I’m trying to get better. We find our strength deep in the valley of our fears.
Sometimes the best thing to do is: nothing.
Many productivity books tell you what you can do MORE of in order to achieve goals, purpose, success money, etc. But MORE is hard to do. I’m already busy.
You need to eliminate first. You need to be a productivity minimalist in order to be a success. The key is to find the easy things you can chop off where you can at the very least do nothing instead of doing things that actually DAMAGE your productivity.
Here’s a checklist I use for when to do nothing:
Do nothing when you’re angry. Some people think anger can focus emotions, but it doesn’t. It’s like focusing on a kaleidoscope. You’ll walk straight off a cliff. Anger is a roadmap off that cliff. You have to wait until it settles down and you get perspective. Time ultimately route the anger against you or with you as you deal with it so once calm Then you can act. Anger is just an outer reflection of inner fear. The fear might be correct, but the anger blurs it.
Do nothing when you’re paranoid. I initially wrote “fear” here. But fear can focus. If you’re in the jungle and there’s a lion on your right and an apple tree on your left then you better run as fast as you can back where you came from. But often I’m not afraid, I’m paranoid. I imagine a chaotic future filled with misery and hate and homelessness and loneliness. My best bet is to sit down and picture a more realistic future, one based on the fact that almost 99 percent of what I’ve been paranoid about in the past never comes true.
Do nothing when you’re anxious. Why did they call at 5 p.m. on a Friday night and sayUgh! I hate that! Why 5 p.m.? What did they have to say? I should call her house line. I should write. I should drive up and visit (“Hey, just stopping by! So, uhh, what was up with that phone call?”). There is nothing that is ever so important it can’t wait. And if it was that important, then it’s a roadmap to you and not the situation. It’s an opportunity to say, “What about my life can be rearranged so that this one thing doesn’t throw me off so much? What things can I change?” And then have fun changing them.
Do nothing when you’re tired. I was trying to figure out something on the computer the other day. It was both very technical and related to money. First it was 1 p.m. Then it was 6 p.m. Then, against all my rules for a “daily practice,” it was midnight. And I was no closer to figuring it out. I was tired. My eyes were blurry. I was taking ten-second naps on my computer. A week later I still haven’t figured out what I needed to figure out. But right then, because I had invested this time into my “learning” and I was tired, I wanted to keep going. My wife Claudia peeled me off the keyboard and marched me upstairs. Sleep hygiene is the best way to improve productivity in your life. Not beating your head against a computer.
Do nothing when you want to be liked. How many times have I gone to a meeting? Taken a trip abroad? Made stupid investments? Just so someone would like me: a mother, a father, a friend, a reader, an investor, a customer, a stranger. Answer: a lot of times. Too many times. we continue to live the illusion in search of the dream, in avoidance of the nightmare, ignorant of the reality
It’s when we are in touch with the magic of our silence that we find our inner creators and can change the universe.
Sometimes spending time with our self in deep silence happens to be a Scuba Driving experience as you discover the beauty that lies very deep and newly discovered !!! Do Try it ;)
I got an email at 5 in the morning that made me Go Crazy with angry. It pressed every button. It accused and threatenedme with all the cc-ed Sr Management . It attempted to make me feel guilt. It attempted to make me feel fear....
I made up my mind to type a eassy reponse to same and then i just waved at thought I'll sleep :) I’m not so great that I can always stop. Sometimes I don't respond.
But I’m trying to get better. We find our strength deep in the valley of our fears.
Sometimes the best thing to do is: nothing.
Many productivity books tell you what you can do MORE of in order to achieve goals, purpose, success money, etc. But MORE is hard to do. I’m already busy.
You need to eliminate first. You need to be a productivity minimalist in order to be a success. The key is to find the easy things you can chop off where you can at the very least do nothing instead of doing things that actually DAMAGE your productivity.
Here’s a checklist I use for when to do nothing:
Do nothing when you’re angry. Some people think anger can focus emotions, but it doesn’t. It’s like focusing on a kaleidoscope. You’ll walk straight off a cliff. Anger is a roadmap off that cliff. You have to wait until it settles down and you get perspective. Time ultimately route the anger against you or with you as you deal with it so once calm Then you can act. Anger is just an outer reflection of inner fear. The fear might be correct, but the anger blurs it.
Do nothing when you’re paranoid. I initially wrote “fear” here. But fear can focus. If you’re in the jungle and there’s a lion on your right and an apple tree on your left then you better run as fast as you can back where you came from. But often I’m not afraid, I’m paranoid. I imagine a chaotic future filled with misery and hate and homelessness and loneliness. My best bet is to sit down and picture a more realistic future, one based on the fact that almost 99 percent of what I’ve been paranoid about in the past never comes true.
Do nothing when you’re anxious. Why did they call at 5 p.m. on a Friday night and sayUgh! I hate that! Why 5 p.m.? What did they have to say? I should call her house line. I should write. I should drive up and visit (“Hey, just stopping by! So, uhh, what was up with that phone call?”). There is nothing that is ever so important it can’t wait. And if it was that important, then it’s a roadmap to you and not the situation. It’s an opportunity to say, “What about my life can be rearranged so that this one thing doesn’t throw me off so much? What things can I change?” And then have fun changing them.
Do nothing when you’re tired. I was trying to figure out something on the computer the other day. It was both very technical and related to money. First it was 1 p.m. Then it was 6 p.m. Then, against all my rules for a “daily practice,” it was midnight. And I was no closer to figuring it out. I was tired. My eyes were blurry. I was taking ten-second naps on my computer. A week later I still haven’t figured out what I needed to figure out. But right then, because I had invested this time into my “learning” and I was tired, I wanted to keep going. My wife Claudia peeled me off the keyboard and marched me upstairs. Sleep hygiene is the best way to improve productivity in your life. Not beating your head against a computer.
Do nothing when you want to be liked. How many times have I gone to a meeting? Taken a trip abroad? Made stupid investments? Just so someone would like me: a mother, a father, a friend, a reader, an investor, a customer, a stranger. Answer: a lot of times. Too many times. we continue to live the illusion in search of the dream, in avoidance of the nightmare, ignorant of the reality
It’s when we are in touch with the magic of our silence that we find our inner creators and can change the universe.
Sometimes spending time with our self in deep silence happens to be a Scuba Driving experience as you discover the beauty that lies very deep and newly discovered !!! Do Try it ;)
