Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Useful
3 Smartest Words in the world are “I don’t know.”
While
there are lot and lot of people who use and express “I know” It’s almost an
insult for them to be wrong. It seems that getting them to see your point
of view is impossible. They just don’t listen.
Know
anyone like that? Sure you do .We all do
!!
My
question is, how do they get that way?
They
Know Everything….
Why
bother having an open mind at all?
The
beauty of knowing nothing leaves you opens to knowing everything. It’s
totally zen. Like the old “empty your cup so it can be filled” teaching.
Empty your cup
1.
Think like a baby. Imagine a chubby, babbling, drooling,
wide eyed, baby strolling down the street with his mother. He’s inhaling a
bottle of baby formula when a loud crash makes him crap in his
diaper. Both he and his mom look over to see a terrible car accident.
The
mom looks horrified while the baby poops out his last turd and sticks the
bottle back in his mouth.
You
may be wondering, where does this relate to this post but My point is that
babies don’t really care. Mentally they are clean slates, which is why
they learn so quickly. They don’t let preconceived notions cloud their
vision of the world.
They
observe, respond to situations with their instincts, and remain present in the
moment.
Babies
are totally neutral and don’t even know it – which makes them even MORE
neautral-like.
In
other words, babies kick ass and so should you?
2.
When someone’s talking, shut the
hell up! Both externally and internally
How
many times have you caught yourself thinking about what to say before the other
person is done speaking?
Answer:
Not often.
Why?
Because
you do it so naturally, it’s barely noticeable to you. Next time someone’s
gabbing away, shut the voice inside your head up and listen.
A
neat little trick to do this is to pay attention to your body. Notice tension
areas and purposefully relax them. It’s easy to do and you’ll surprisingly get
more from the conversation than you normally would.
You’ll
also notice something very interesting.
Instead
of waiting to add your two cents, you’ll ask more questions. That’s a
good sign. The questions will be genuine and you’ll ask them with perfect
timing.
It’ll
keep conversations flowing and will forge connections between you and your new
friends..
Go
ahead, give it a try next time someone’s talking to you.
3. Forget all notions of right and
wrong. Even if someone is wrong and you’re right, who cares? You have
nothing to prove so let them be wrong. Simply listen and don’t rain on their
parade.
On
the other hand, if you’re wrong or don’t know something – who cares?! Just
admit it and ask for help.
It’s
that simple.
It
feels great and you’ll relieve the pressure of having to be perfect from your
shoulders. Let the world know you need help sometimes. Allow yourself to make
mistakes and activate the learning process. It’ll be the beginning of a
smarter and happier you. You won’t regret it.
People
will actually go out of their way to help you when they know you’re brave
enough to say three little words. You’ll also make them feel great by allowing
them to teach you something. Plus you’ll gain valuable information from someone
more skilled than you – FOR FREE!
You
can also go back to your own world where you know it all. Go back to your
pretend life of Godly wisdom. Get back on your high horse and be miserable on
the inside while you have it all under control on the outside.
I
think it’s possible but it all starts with you.
So
start today by working these words into your vocab. And admire how awesome you
can be.
Give
it a try and let me know in the comments
if this works for you. I’m simply sharing something I hope will make your
life easier. Will it actually work?
Simple
answer: I don’t know.
